Who You Attract Is A Reflection Of You

Just before I fell asleep, I started thinking about something someone said years ago and realized how true it is as I have lived through it.
You will not attract the person you want to be with until you’re where you want to be in life.
Everything we attract on the outside is a reflection of what’s inside. If you’re trying to find a mate while you’re still broken, you will attract a mate who is equally broken.
What you attract is a re-affirmation of what you believe. Your belief might have been influenced by past negative experiences that continue to stay with you for a while even after the relationship has ended and act as a lens that you see the world through.
Until you change your belief, you will see everything and everyone through that lens and unconsciously try to select people who act in coherence with your belief.
Unfortunately, this becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy of negative beliefs. Until you start to question your own beliefs and try to change them, you will unconsciously try to re-affirm that your beliefs are right.
This is why people who believe people cheat usually end up dating cheaters. Somewhere in their subconscious mind attracts the type that re-affirms their belief.
If you look around at your friends, you would spot patterns. If you look at your past, you would spot patterns. Until you look deep into the hole within your heart, look at your upbringing and your relationship with parents, your attachment style, your values as well as the strengths that you are attracted that naturally come with the same set of weaknesses, you will never understand why you keep running into the same issues over and over.
We gravitate towards the familiar more than right. We learned about love through our parents and observing our parents.
Until we learn to heal the wounds we’ve had since childhood, we will continue to repeat the same patterns until we do.
So if you’re not where you want to be in life, seeking a mate should come after you have healed and are closer to where you want to be in life.
Remember, we attract what we are. Raise your vibration and your life will transform from inside and out.
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So how can you heal? We have listed the 10 steps you must go through in the previous blog post.
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Catrina
octobre 28 2020
Agreed. This pointed article is indeed very deep and strikingly true.
Ebony
juin 24 2020
Damn, this is deep!
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