Day 19: It's Not Fun When You Suck. So What Do You Do?
There are 83 days left until the new year.
Are you still on track with your final 2019 goal?
It is never easy to try to get into a new routine. One thing I do is I try to find joy. Everything has its beauty. You just have to find it. And it is 'your' job to find it.
But how can you find joy when you just start something new? Because, let's be honest, a lot of things are not fun until you're great at it. When you try something new for the first time, you probably suck. This applies to most things in life - from sports to music to any skill sets.
So how you can push through from 'being an awkward beginner' to 'being a passionate intermediate' ?
1. Choose your surroundings.
Your surroundings affect how you feel about the world and about life. The energy and passion of people you surround yourself with will rub off on you and affect your choices.
Learning alone can be lonely. This is how a lot of us give up before getting good.
One strategy is to learn with other beginners.
Another strategy is to learn from those who are already good at what you want to be good at.
Things are more fun with people who can show you how fun those things could be.
- If you want to eat healthily, hang out with people who eat healthily. Maybe they find joy in cooking? Maybe they know how to make vegetables taste really good?
- If you want to save money, get close to people who are good at managing their finances and see how they budget their spending.
- If you want to work out regularly, make friends with people who do and love doing so.
In the beginning, it might feel like you’re forcing yourself to like something you don’t enjoy. But trust me, we are social animals who absorb energy from our surroundings. You’ll eventually blend in. We unconsciously adapt and change to our surroundings.
2. Make it familiar
Can you think of a song that you initially didn’t like when you first heard it, but because you kept hearing it everywhere you went, you started to like it?
- Justin Bieber’s songs?
Call me maybe? 😂
You hear me!
We can make ourselves like anything by being familiar.
When we hear, think about, or do something for the first time, our brain creates a new neuron pathway. When we hear, think about, or do something repeatedly, that neuron pathway gets stronger.
When that neuron pathway is strong inside our brain, it feels familiar and easy for us to physically do that same thing again.
The key is to do something repeatedly until it feels familiar - until the action feels familiar; until the pain and discomfort feel familiar that they no longer feel like pain and discomfort.
The same theory applies to everything else in life.
Have you ever moved to a new city where you initially didn’t like? But then you started getting to know it... you started to feel very familiar with it basically. Then the next thing you know, you feel attached to it and fond of it even though you didn’t like it in the first place?
I hope you understand what I’m trying to explain here. It’s one trick I use to manipulate my mind to like anything.
Are you ready to get familiar with your goal or the actions you need to take in order to get to your goal?
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