“Nothing in life is to be feared, it is only to be understood. Now is the time to understand more, so that we may fear less.” - Marie Curie
Over the past year I have been on my own a lot. Traveling from one place to another, embracing the freedom that I created for myself, I got so deeply in touch with myself like I never did before. I’ve become much more aware of my own consciousness. My ‘me’ time has been a sanctuary for me to process my thoughts and feelings. I’ve really gotten back to genuinely enjoy my own solitude again. As the oldest child with a strict mother, I used to really enjoy my own solitude. I would escape from the negative outside noise into my own little world of art, music, thoughts, and dreams. My imagination and dreams were my sanctuary, my therapy, my meditation, and my best friend. Since I’ve been on the road a lot, I have had to deal with my emotions alone with my own internal voice. Below is what life has taught me over the years.
Over the past few years, I have been on a steep learning curve. Taking complete control and responsibility for building my own future has been extremely rewarding and quite scary at the same time. Even though it gets easier each day as I learn to spot patterns, build momentum and develop a system, I still feel like I live on the edge and that things could change at any second. I have full control of it, yet, I don’t. But life, over the recent years, has taught me to turn fear of the unknown and uncertainty into a feeling of liberation.
Here I want to share what I’ve learned over the past few years building my own business.
Throughout our lives, we are all in search for that something or someone. We want the best; we want the perfect - the most amazing friends you could ever find, the best job in the world, and the perfect someone to love. We spend months and years endlessly searching. If the thing we get is not the best available or is not perfect, we don’t want to keep it. We have a list of criteria that needs to be ticked off. We set standards. We think we have a type. We think we know what we want. But when we get it, we actually realize that it’s not what we thought it would be. About ten years ago just before my friend’s grandmother passed away, she gave him a few words of wisdom which (were passed onto me and) have stuck by me since. Don’t go and look for the girl of your dreams. Instead, focus on becoming the person of your dreams and the girl of your dreams will come and find you.
Most of us start every new year with a set of goals we are determined to achieve. There may be changes we want to make in our lives, bad habits we want to get rid of , places we want to travel to, activities we want to try, or things we’d like to tick off our bucket list.
I am just like you. Sometimes I become side-tracked. I let my lazy mind overtake my willpower. I let my mood get in the way of what I ultimately want to achieve. I procrastinate, put things off, and feel even worse later when I try to get things done in such a short period of time. Sometimes life gets in the way and disrupts my good habits. The next thing I know I’ve fallen back into this hole of laziness, procrastination, and not doing what I know I should be doing. Then I wait for the new year or my birthday to come around in order to get excited about my New Year’s Resolutions as if the date is going to make any difference. If you feel like you can relate to this and are starting to feel unmotivated, even though it’s May already, read on!
Here are 6 tips on how you can remain inspired and motivated.
There is only one success - to be able to spend your life in your own way.
- Christopher Morley
If people ask me what success means, this is what I’d say. But time has proven to me now, that I would not be able to achieve the kind of success I define as success without this one thing - ‘purpose’.
Purpose is knowing the meaning of your life, knowing your core values, knowing what makes your heart...
We all can admit that it's hard to one day break out of our shell and start taking responsibility for our own life especially if we always have someone to rely on to help make things happen for us, or, if we have been in engaged in the stability and comfort of that certain thing that makes us unhappy for far too long i.e. a job that kills our soul but pays well, a rollercoaster-ride relationship. These are two different scenarios but they both require the same action - deciding that we're going to take charge of our own life.
What we need to realize is that by staying in comfort because it's less scary, less terrifying, and more convenient, we let others take away our own personal power.When you always rely on something or someone to help you all the time, you don't grow your own personal power. Whatever is sharpened gets sharper. Whatever we focus on expands. Whatever we exercise gets stronger. If we never ever do things on our own and just rely on luck, someone , or something else to help change our situation, we would never get to exercise our own courage, self-discipline, and build our self-confidence.
Now are you ready to start taking charge of your own life? How's how you can start doing so.
1. All people operate from the same two motivations: to fulfill their desires and to escape their suffering
Learning this allowed me to finally make sense of how people can hurt each other so badly. The best explanation I had before this was that some people are just bad. What a cop-out. No matter what kind of behavior other people exhibit, they are acting in the most effective way they are capable...
Most of us are scared of diving into the unknown, of uncertainty, of unfamiliarity, of not knowing what’s going to happen. We are scared that things could go wrong, that things will be uncomfortable, and that things might not go as expected.
But taking a leap of faith and throwing yourself into the unknown can be very rewarding. It means that you fully surrender to all expectations that you and...