If people ask me what success means, this is what I’d say. But time has proven to me now, that I would not be able to achieve the kind of success I define as success without this one thing - ‘purpose’.
Purpose is knowing the meaning of your life, knowing your core values, knowing what makes your heart...
Today is Father’s Day. I’d like to take this opportunity to talk about an issue that doesn’t get talked about as often as it should which is how father’s mental health also affects family tremendously.
Energies are contagious. When one family member suffers from depression, burnout, sadness, and stress, everyone else in the family feels it too. Being a father is not an easy job and fathers deserve to be praised more often.
Even though women and men are becoming more equal, men still feel that as a husband or a dad, they are to be the provider of the family. It might feel like an easier job than being a mother to many people, but as I’ve observed many men in my life, I can honestly say that men bear a lot of stress on their shoulder. Most of the time they don’t even express it because they feel that it is their duty, their role, their responsibility as a man.Their ability to provide affects their identity. It defines their self-worth. It is what they see as the meaning of their life.
Stress is contagious. If one person in the family is stressed, everyone else feels the effects too.I’d like to take this opportunity to help us learn to become better partners, better friends, and better daughters to the men in our lives by learning to recognize their stress and know how to deal with it without making the situation worse.
Let today be the day we reflect on the things we appreciate about our mothers and what learned from them.
Whether you had a beautiful relationship with your mother or not, in order for us to learn to fully love ourselves, welcome healthy love into our lives, and become whole adults, we need to make peace with past pain and cultivate on being grateful for the good things that we have and the amazing women we have become as results of them.
One way to create a better, more fulfilling relationship with ourselves is to start by reflecting on the love language of our mother. Sometimes the way you and your mother like to receive and give love are different. This can create feelings of having received unfulfilled love as children.
Are you hitting a plateau? Have you been feeling like nothing is working out for a while now? Are you getting tired and discouraged?
It feels as though when I look around, many people around me (including me) have been hitting a plateau in life - businesses have slowed down; obstacles have come up to cause stress. We keep fighting for months and months but nothing seems to get better. Is it the economy? Is it the age range? Is it mercury in retrograde? What is it?
Whatever it may be... what if... what if all of these... is just a natural part of our life’s circle?
We all talk about being the best we can be, but what if being our best means being able to manage our worst selves? I believe that we all have our darkness. Personality traits are like yin and yang. Every strength comes with a weakness.The intensity of your strength comes at a cost of the intensity of your weakness.Unless all of your traits are neutral, then you can’t run away from this fact of the human psyche.
If you say you don’t have any darkness within you, it’s probably because of one of the following reasons:
You are oblivious to it.
You don’t know yourself well enough.
You have been hiding it, hiding from it, and avoid facing it by avoiding intimacy.
Running away from our darkness or being oblivious to it is like running away from the truth of life. It is hard to be vulnerable. It is hard to face our weakness. But unless we learn to face it, accept it, and learn to manage it, we cannot become whole. If you live life only facing your light, you will keep feeling like you’re running the show because you’re dismissing another important part of you. When you learn to embrace your whole self, you will be filled with self-love. And it’s a beautiful feeling to live in a constant state of flow.
“Nothing in life is to be feared, it is only to be understood. Now is the time to understand more, so that we may fear less.” - Marie Curie
Over the past year I have been on my own a lot. Traveling from one place to another, embracing the freedom that I created for myself, I got so deeply in touch with myself like I never did before. I’ve become much more aware of my own consciousness. My ‘me’ time has been a sanctuary for me to process my thoughts and feelings. I’ve really gotten back to genuinely enjoy my own solitude again. As the oldest child with a strict mother, I used to really enjoy my own solitude. I would escape from the negative outside noise into my own little world of art, music, thoughts, and dreams. My imagination and dreams were my sanctuary, my therapy, my meditation, and my best friend. Since I’ve been on the road a lot, I have had to deal with my emotions alone with my own internal voice. Below is what life has taught me over the years.
Over the past few years, I have been on a steep learning curve. Taking complete control and responsibility for building my own future has been extremely rewarding and quite scary at the same time. Even though it gets easier each day as I learn to spot patterns, build momentum and develop a system, I still feel like I live on the edge and that things could change at any second. I have full control of it, yet, I don’t. But life, over the recent years, has taught me to turn fear of the unknown and uncertainty into a feeling of liberation.
Here I want to share what I’ve learned over the past few years building my own business.
Throughout our lives, we are all in search for that something or someone. We want the best; we want the perfect - the most amazing friends you could ever find, the best job in the world, and the perfect someone to love. We spend months and years endlessly searching. If the thing we get is not the best available or is not perfect, we don’t want to keep it. We have a list of criteria that needs to be ticked off. We set standards. We think we have a type. We think we know what we want. But when we get it, we actually realize that it’s not what we thought it would be. About ten years ago just before my friend’s grandmother passed away, she gave him a few words of wisdom which (were passed onto me and) have stuck by me since. Don’t go and look for the girl of your dreams. Instead, focus on becoming the person of your dreams and the girl of your dreams will come and find you.
Most of us start every new year with a set of goals we are determined to achieve. There may be changes we want to make in our lives, bad habits we want to get rid of , places we want to travel to, activities we want to try, or things we’d like to tick off our bucket list.
I am just like you. Sometimes I become side-tracked. I let my lazy mind overtake my willpower. I let my mood get in the way of what I ultimately want to achieve. I procrastinate, put things off, and feel even worse later when I try to get things done in such a short period of time. Sometimes life gets in the way and disrupts my good habits. The next thing I know I’ve fallen back into this hole of laziness, procrastination, and not doing what I know I should be doing. Then I wait for the new year or my birthday to come around in order to get excited about my New Year’s Resolutions as if the date is going to make any difference. If you feel like you can relate to this and are starting to feel unmotivated, even though it’s May already, read on!
Here are 6 tips on how you can remain inspired and motivated.